I Repeat, I Am Not Giving Up My Airplane Seat

When unexpected situations arise, it can be challenging to know the best way to handle them, especially when our decisions may affect others. We recently received a letter from one of our readers who found themselves in a guilt-inducing situation on a flight. We want to provide some friendly advice to help her navigate similar situations in the future.

First off, we understand how important it is for you and your friend, Jessica, to have a comfortable and peaceful trip, especially when you save up for first-class seats. It’s completely understandable that you wanted to protect your investment.

However, it’s essential to remember that small acts of kindness can make a big difference in someone’s day. While you both had every right to keep your seats, it’s worth considering if there could have been a way to offer some accommodation to the woman with the crying baby.

For instance, it might have been helpful to offer to switch seats with her for part of the flight or share some of your in-flight amenities. These small gestures might not have resolved the entire issue, but they could have shown understanding and compassion, helping to alleviate some of the stress the woman was feeling.

Ultimately, it’s crucial to make an effort to be sympathetic and understanding in situations like these. Kindness goes a long way because, at the end of the day, we’re all in this together.

However, it’s equally important to prioritize your own needs and well-being. It’s perfectly okay to put yourself first and make decisions that support your own happiness, even if they are not popular or widely accepted. Taking care of ourselves, including setting boundaries, is essential.

We’re proud of you and your friend for staying true to yourselves and your beliefs. In the future, we encourage you to approach similar situations with empathy, understanding, and consideration for the needs and perspectives of others.

How would you respond if you were in that position?


It’s unfortunate that some people may try to take advantage of situations like this, using their crying babies as a way to get better seats. However, it’s important to remember that not all parents would do this, and they may genuinely need assistance.

I don’t believe they allow crying babies in First Class, but assuming this is true, Sarah, you are not obligated to give up your seat to anyone. I traveled with my son when he was seven months old on a ten-hour flight, and I would have never dared to ask someone for a different seat. Unfortunately, some people may take advantage if given the opportunity.

Babies can cry for various reasons, and changing seats may not be the ultimate solution. In situations like these, the mother should reach out to the cabin crew for assistance, as the crying may disturb all passengers.

HHHHHWHAT?!???!! This advice is awful! I completely understand why you feel frustrated and upset with the suggestions given. You are not obligated to accommodate this selfish and opportunistic woman. You have every right to prioritize your own needs and stand your ground. You are 100% in the right, and no one should make you feel otherwise.