There are some things men should never say to the woman they love. These things might seem insignificant on the surface, but they can have a big impact. The good news is we’re here to guide you on what to avoid saying to your significant other.

1. “My ex used to … “

Anything you say that includes the words “my ex” is a no-go. You can compare your past relationships in your mind, but keep it to yourself. There are inside thoughts and outside thoughts, and this one belongs firmly in the inside category.

2. “Yeah, she’s hot”

Don’t fall for this trap. If your partner asks, “Do you think she’s cute?” with a nonchalant shrug, you must quickly and reflexively lie. Whether it’s a woman in a magazine, a Facebook friend, or a waitress, the answer should always be no. In fact, you can earn extra points by casually finding a flaw in the other woman. Watch your partner’s face light up when you say, “Is it me, or does her nose look a bit odd?”

3. “You sound just like your mother”

Comparing anyone to their mother, sister, or another family member is risky business. You don’t know those people as she does, nor do you understand the complexities of their relationships. Plus, everyone wants to be seen as an independent individual, distinct from their family members.

4. “You always do that”

Using sweeping words like “never” and “always” is a quick way to turn a minor argument into a major confrontation. These words are often inaccurate and will not only upset her, but give her a chance to prove you wrong and gain the upper hand. It may also dredge up past arguments, turning your current issue into a rehash of all the worst parts of your relationship.

5. “It’s Up to You”

Relationships involve a lot of decision-making, from where to eat to where to vacation and more. Most men wouldn’t dream of saying, “I don’t care” to their partner. However, saying, “It’s up to you,” can have the same effect. Men see decision-making as a chore, while women view it as a form of window-shopping for life’s possibilities. When you say, “It’s up to you,” she might feel neglected.

Instead, try saying, “I could definitely do A or B, but I’m not crazy about C. What are your thoughts?” This shows that you’re listening, that you care, and it helps you dodge the decision-making bullet.

6. Other Remarks to Avoid

There are a few more phrases to steer clear of if you want to keep your relationship harmonious:

– “I’m Not In The Mood.”

– “I Don’t Care.”

– “Have You Gained Weight?”