The bride’s parents labeled her as ‘disrespectful’ for serving meatless meals at their wedding, according to a viral Reddit post.
For one bride, choosing her wedding menu has become a heated discussion with her parents. They disagree with her choice to serve a meatless menu on the big day.
In a post on Reddit’s popular ‘Am I The A******’ page, a user named SwimmingFew6861 shared her dilemma. She is currently finalizing the food options for her upcoming wedding and describes herself and her fiancé as ‘pretty relaxed vegetarians.’
‘When we go out, we’re fine if our friends or family eat meat or fish. We just need a veggie option and we’re happy,’ she explained. ‘But since it’s our wedding, we thought a fully vegetarian menu would be nice.’
However, the bride’s parents, who are covering the meal expenses, aren’t supportive of this idea. They feel it’s ‘disrespectful’ to those who aren’t vegetarian and believe it forces their ‘ethics’ on others.
The bride believes that since it’s their special day, they should be able to serve what they want. She’s confident the food will be delicious. She noted that her friends never had issues with vegetarian meals when she hosted, but her parents think the wedding should be different.
‘People expect luxury food,’ according to her parents. ‘Especially if they’re traveling from abroad. Apparently, this needs to include meat.’
‘I don’t mind if our guests eat meat, but it’s inconsistent with our life choices. It’s our day and serving meat would feel inauthentic,’ SwimmingFew6861 said. She also mentioned that the ‘meat thing is quite generational.’
Though her fiancé supports her, she is torn since her parents are footing the bill for the meal. She asked, ‘Would I be the a****** if I served an all-vegetarian menu?’
Many readers quickly labeled her as ‘not the a******’ in this situation.
‘Choosing a vegetarian menu is not pushing anything on anyone, any more than any other food choice would be,’ one reader wrote. ‘If you offered chicken, would you be pushing chicken onto people? This is being overly politicized by those around you.’
Another reader mentioned that skipping meat for one meal shouldn’t be a big issue. ‘My spouse and I are your parents’ age, and your idea sounds delicious! They are graciously helping with the wedding costs, but that shouldn’t come with strings attached.’
Another commenter pointed out that a meal without meat could still be hearty. ‘Think frittatas and cheeses for the cocktail hour, or coal-fired pizzas and flatbreads. Pasta could be a main course.’
However, one reader advised caution regarding allergens. ‘Avoid meat substitutes as people might not consider allergies or sensitivities.’
Some readers offered a compromise. ‘If you really want everything your way, pay for the whole wedding yourself. This way, your parents won’t have a say.’
Others warned the couple to be prepared for potential backlash. ‘Both before and during the event, be ready for some guests to be unhappy. You need to decide if having only vegetarian food is worth that stress.’
