MY TODDLER’S BEEN CRYING ALL WEEK—AND NO DOCTOR CAN TELL US WHAT’S WRONG

I’m running on fumes at this point. It’s been seven days—seven long days—of my little one crying almost nonstop. It started out as just a grumpy mood, then turned into these full-on meltdowns, especially after he ate. I figured it was teething, or maybe a bug from daycare. But after a couple nights of him clutching his belly and just wailing, I knew something else was up.

We’ve seen two different pediatricians, did the urgent care thing, even went to the ER once in a panic. Every time, it’s the same story—“His tummy is soft, there’s no fever, just keep an eye on him.” They ran some tests, tried a few different meds, but nothing seemed to help. He’s exhausted, I’m exhausted, and the worst part is not having any real answers.

He’ll have moments where he just wants to cuddle, and then the next minute he’s doubled over, tears rolling down his cheeks, clutching at his stomach like it’s the end of the world. I’ve changed his diet, tried every trick people suggested, but every nap, every bedtime, I’m just holding my breath waiting for it to start up again.

It’s the not knowing that’s driving me crazy. The uncertainty. I’ve always thought that as a parent, you have an instinct—something inside that guides you, that helps you know when something’s wrong. But what happens when your instincts are screaming at you, and every doctor, every professional, just tells you, “It’s probably nothing”?

I’m so tired. Not just physically, but emotionally. Watching my baby suffer with no explanation is like being trapped in a nightmare that I can’t wake up from. There’s a heavy weight in my chest every time he wails out in pain. My heart aches for him, and I feel like I’m failing him somehow. I just want to make it stop. I want to see his smile again—the smile I haven’t seen in days.

The whole week felt like a blur. Every morning, I’d wake up hopeful, hoping today would be the day it all turned around. But by mid-afternoon, he’d be crying again, writhing in discomfort. And when I went to bed, the exhaustion would hit me like a wave, only to be washed over again the next day with no answers. No relief.

I found myself Googling every possible scenario. Is it reflux? A food intolerance? A virus? I even started asking other parents on online forums, desperate for any kind of insight. Someone suggested it might be colic, others said it could be a stomach ulcer. There were even some who mentioned abdominal migraines in children, but the pediatricians dismissed all those ideas.

Then came the tipping point. One night, after another long crying session, I collapsed on the couch, drained and hopeless. My partner, Joe, tried to comfort me, but there was nothing either of us could do anymore. Just as I was about to give in to the tears that had been building up in me for days, my phone buzzed. It was a message from my old friend, Lucy, who I hadn’t spoken to in months.

I hesitated for a moment, not sure if I could handle another conversation. But I opened it anyway.

“Hey, I know things have been tough for you lately, but I just wanted to check in. You’re always on top of things, but you’re sounding really down. Is everything okay? Do you need to talk?”

I stared at the screen for a long time before typing out a response. I hadn’t really told anyone the full extent of what we were going through. I didn’t want to burden anyone. But something about Lucy’s message made me realize I needed to share this weight with someone.

I poured my heart out to her—everything. How I’d been running in circles, feeling completely powerless, and how nothing seemed to be working for my son. It was a long message, but when I hit send, I felt a strange sense of relief.

Lucy’s response came almost immediately: “I’m so sorry you’re going through this. I know exactly how you feel. Let me tell you about a pediatrician I saw when Max (her son) was a baby. She’s different. She really listens, and she digs deeper than the usual doctors. She’s kind of unconventional, but sometimes that’s what you need when you’re feeling stuck.”

I read her message twice. This was the first time someone had suggested something other than the standard medical route, and I wasn’t sure what to think. But at that point, I was desperate enough to try anything.

The next morning, I called the doctor Lucy recommended. Dr. Rachel was available for a consultation the following week, but they told me to come in sooner if I felt it was urgent. I didn’t want to waste time waiting, so I pushed for an appointment as soon as possible. They squeezed us in that afternoon.

Walking into Dr. Rachel’s office was different. The atmosphere was calm and welcoming, a stark contrast to the sterile, cold environments we had experienced in the past. Dr. Rachel was warm, patient, and most importantly, she listened. After I explained everything that had been going on, she didn’t dismiss any of my concerns. She didn’t give me the “wait and see” speech. Instead, she said something that made me feel a sense of hope I hadn’t felt in days.

“I believe there’s more going on here than what you’ve been told. Let’s figure it out together.”

She ordered a few more tests and insisted on following up more frequently. She explained that sometimes, pediatricians miss things, especially in young children who can’t always communicate what’s happening with them. Dr. Rachel believed that sometimes, it took a different perspective to truly get to the root of an issue.

A week later, we got the results. It turned out my son had a sensitivity to certain foods that wasn’t detectable by the usual tests. After some further investigation, it turned out that he had a mild but persistent food allergy—one that was causing stomach discomfort after every meal. It wasn’t something any of the previous doctors had looked into, and certainly not something I would have guessed.

When I got the news, I felt a mixture of relief and guilt. Relief because we finally had an answer, and guilt because I had spent all those sleepless nights feeling like I was failing as a parent, and all along, it had been something simple that no one had picked up on.

We switched up his diet completely. It wasn’t easy, but seeing the improvement almost overnight was worth every bit of effort. My son started sleeping through the night again, and his smile returned—the one I had missed so much. I couldn’t believe the difference.

But there was something else that was even more important. When I look back on those long, difficult days, I realize the one thing I had forgotten to do was trust my instincts. I had let the doctors’ opinions drown out my own sense of what was going on. I had let the frustration cloud my judgment, but I had eventually found the courage to push through it and seek another opinion when I felt something wasn’t right.

It’s funny, isn’t it? How sometimes, we need to feel completely broken before we can see a way forward.

In the end, my son’s health improved, and I learned a valuable lesson about trust, persistence, and listening to my gut. And I realized that, no matter how qualified or experienced the professionals are, they’re not always right. Sometimes, it’s up to us to advocate for our loved ones and push for the answers we deserve, no matter how exhausting it might be.

If you’re struggling with something similar, don’t give up. Trust yourself, ask for help when you need it, and remember that the right answers often come when you least expect them.

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