Being in a romantic relationship means sharing things you wouldn’t typically share with anyone else. This includes hobbies, secrets, and of course, intimacy. Intimacy can involve emotional or physical actions, and occasionally, intimate gifts.
So, imagine a man’s surprise when he discovered that his wife had a boudoir photoshoot three months ago and hadn’t shared the photos with him. He began questioning her reasons and whether he should bring it up, leading him to share his story online.
How should you react when you find something spicy about your partner that they haven’t shared with you?
Image credits: Oleksandr P (not the actual photo)
A child was playing on an iPad when a photo from their mom’s boudoir photoshoot appeared on the screen
Image credits: Leah Newhouse (not the actual photo)
The child showed the picture to his father, who saw it for the first time, despite them being taken three months ago
Image credits: cottonbro studio (not the actual photo)
The man became obsessed with the question of why his wife hadn’t shown these photos to him
One day, their child was playing with an iPad while watching TV with his dad. The child then turned to his father and asked if the woman in the picture on the screen was his mom.
It was indeed his mother, but it wasn’t just any photo — it was from a boudoir photoshoot. Boudoir photography is an intimate type of professional photography, often meant to make the subject feel beautiful and empowered. These photos typically focus on flattering the curves and body of the client and can be playful, provocative, and sometimes imply nudity.
The child’s iPad was connected to the mother’s iCloud, which led to the photo appearing there. The dad wasn’t particularly upset about his child seeing the image. Instead, he started worrying about why he hadn’t seen these photos before. Initially, he thought maybe she was saving them for their anniversary, a theory supported by boudoir photographer Kristina, who mentioned that many clients get these photos as gifts for special occasions.
However, their anniversary passed and the wife didn’t reveal the photos. The husband then hoped she might give them to him for his birthday at the end of the year, but the question of why she took the photos kept nagging him.
At first, he thought it might be for their anniversary, but when it passed and she didn’t reveal them, the question kept taunting him
Kristina explained that many women opt for boudoir sessions to feel empowered and beautiful. These sessions can act like therapy, helping women see themselves through a different, more flattering lens. It isn’t uncommon for clients to book these sessions to celebrate a weight loss or fitness milestone or to regain confidence after a breakup or divorce.
The husband is quite sure that his wife isn’t cheating, so he considered that maybe she took these photos to feel beautiful for herself. After all, they have two kids, which often means less intimacy and possibly a drop in the woman’s self-esteem due to changes in her body from childbirth and the postpartum period.
So, he asked for advice on Reddit, where people shared their theories, but the main conclusion was that he should simply ask her about it
Aside from the possibility that she was planning to gift the photos later, other Reddit users suggested that the wife might have taken the photos for herself, to rebuild her confidence and sense of beauty. For some women, boudoir photoshoots are a deeply personal experience.
Kristina noted that creating a comfortable environment during these photoshoots is crucial. She keeps an open line of communication with her clients about what they want, encourages them with compliments, and keeps the mood light with casual conversations and their favorite music.
Many commenters suggested that the husband should talk to his wife about the photos. After all, the discovery wasn’t due to snooping; it happened accidentally. They believed that if the wife hadn’t mentioned the photos, it could be because she was nervous about showing them or maybe preserving them as a private confidence booster.
The husband plans to wait until his birthday before having the conversation, hoping that the photos might be presented as a gift. But if more aspects of suspicious behavior come to light, he feels he may need to address it sooner.
Ultimately, the key takeaway is the importance of communication. Whether the photos are meant as a gift for him or a gift to herself, both reasons are valid. It’s essential for them to discuss the matter openly, ensuring that no misunderstandings cloud their relationship.
