In an effort to divvy up household tasks, the man writes that he and his wife “agreed that I would make dinner each night and she does breakfast”

A man is going viral after sharing that he will no longer be making his wife dinner because she doesn’t always cook a full breakfast before taking the kids to school and heading off to work.

In a now highly discussed post on Reddit, the man explains, “My wife and I have two kids in daycare. My wife takes the morning shift, which includes getting the kids up, preparing breakfast, and getting them to daycare.”

He, on the other hand, takes care of the “night shift,” which involves picking up the kids from daycare, making dinner, and getting them ready for bed.

In an effort to evenly divide household tasks, the man writes that they agreed, “I would make dinner each night and she does breakfast. She already makes food for the kids, so it’s literally just making an extra portion of what she’s already preparing.”

But recently, he notes, she hasn’t been making breakfast for him at all.

“For the past month, she either doesn’t make breakfast for me [or] doesn’t tell me when it’s ready,” he writes. On some days, she cooks a large breakfast before getting the kids ready, and other days, she just makes toast before taking them to school and commuting over an hour to her office.

“I have talked to her multiple times and explained that it’s not considerate,” the man writes. “We argued, and she told me that I’m home, so I should make my own food. I explained that even though I’m home, I’m still working.”

He continues: “Yesterday, she didn’t make anything, and I had enough. When she came home, I didn’t make her dinner. When she asked why, I told her she’s home and can make her own food.”

“This started a huge argument, and she called me a jerk,” he adds.

The post has sparked a lively discussion on the AmITheA—— subreddit. Many feel that the husband doesn’t realize how much more challenging his wife’s morning schedule is.

“In the morning, there’s a deadline. She has to get to work on time and with an hour’s commute, traffic can be unpredictable,” one commenter wrote. “So her priority in the morning is speed. At night, it’s different because you won’t get fired if the kids don’t go to bed on time. There’s less pressure. You have the easier part of the day.”

Others argue that the man wasn’t looking for advice but validation.

“I’m sure both feel invalidated and need to work on that. He needs to approach it like, ‘I understand your feelings and they’re valid. Here is how I’m feeling…’ If there’s still no progress, they should see a couples therapist because there’s a disconnect they need help with,” another person suggested.

Another set of commenters believe the husband should be preparing both breakfast and dinner given his more flexible schedule.

“It seems sharing duties isn’t an even split. Given her 1+ hour commute, sharing the duty could be more cooperative. He can fix breakfast while she dresses herself and the kids,” one commenter wrote.

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