It is said that intelligent people are less social, and interestingly enough, their overall satisfaction seems to be unaffected by their more secluded way of life.
Do you find comfort in solitude? Are you content with your lifestyle? Do you question the societal notion that we need a multitude of people around us to be happy? Do you prefer the calmness of nature over the hustle and bustle of city life? Would you rather snuggle in bed with your loved one or dive into a good book instead of attending a noisy party? Perhaps your parents fret over your limited social circle?
If you relate to this, rest assured, there’s no cause for concern.
It’s well-known that intelligent individuals often experience higher levels of anxiety and are more prone to social anxiety, given their heightened perceptiveness.
However, a study published in the British Journal of Psychology reveals an intriguing insight: highly intelligent people usually prefer their own company, and there’s an interesting explanation for this preference.
Firstly, what we know: the study highlights that evolutionary psychologists have identified a link between frequent social interaction and reduced life satisfaction in those who are generally more intelligent.
The researchers surveyed adults aged 18 to 28 and discovered that individuals residing in densely populated areas reported lower happiness levels. Interestingly, frequent socialization with friends yielded similar results.
The study suggests the concept of the “Savannah theory” as a foundation for modern happiness — proposing that the sources of happiness today are much the same as they were at the dawn of civilization.
The idea is that smarter individuals are better equipped to tackle modern life’s challenges and are more inclined to “leave the group” to pursue their own, more rewarding lives.
In essence: Intelligent people prefer to socialize less because they do not seek a sense of tribal belonging to find purpose in their lives.
In fact, when faced with the choice between “belonging” and charting their own paths, they are more likely to opt for independence.
This theory suggests that our ancestors’ brains were well-suited to smaller populations and group sizes of about 150 people. Social interaction was vital for survival. It’s this adaptability that signifies an intelligent person. Historically, a superior human would have best followed their instincts — today, a superior individual shapes their future rather than just adhering to the group.
Supporting this is the observation that self-reported happiness is often higher in smaller towns compared to bigger cities, known as the “urban-rural happiness gradient.”
Many factors could contribute to this phenomenon, but it’s likely because people flourish in smaller, more intimate communities with genuine connections. In a small town, there’s a genuine sense of community and belonging.
You might greet familiar faces at the local deli each morning, as opposed to feeling anonymous in a large city’s crowd. In a smaller town, the emphasis is on who you are and your connections rather than your achievements or appearance.
Intelligent people often prioritize their own pursuits, but whether in small towns or large cities, the takeaway is clear: both smart and happy individuals thrive in a few close, authentic relationships.
